Affordable Mediation

I apologize for the redundancy, but I realized my last post that addressed the issue of affordable medation was quite long and so some may not have gotten to the important part. So far as I know, I am the only family law mediator in this area who offers income based mediation fees with a highest fee rate that is no higher than the least expensive mediator I know (he also happens to be one of the best!).  I plan to do this for as long as possible.

I am doing this to make mediaiton more accessible and because I love to do it. When one loves to do something, getting paid for it is merely a way of keeping the lights on and the opportunity to keep doing it open. I have also found that if someone is paying for a service, even a nominal amount, they tend to engage more and get more out of the process.

Call or email me if you want to know more.

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How Mediation can be like MMA

I know, you thought I was talking about Mixed Martial Arts. And, truth be told, I have seen some mediations that wanted to go the route of verbal MMA. But, even that can be turned to a productive session. Actually, I was referring to Making Mediation Affordable. Mediation can be expensive. There are mediators out there that charge a few hundred dollars an hour for their services. Add to that having an attorney attend the mediation with you and then one is looking at several hundred dollars an hour (I usually reduced my attorney rate by half, though, to make mediation more appealing than fighting in court). EVEN SO, MEDIATION IS WORTH IT financially in the long run and most definitely in terms of limiting relational damage in a divorce or separation situation.

But, many people cannot afford to pay those rates for mediation. So, I am breaking one of the cardinal rules I established as a lawyer. I learned early on that if an attorney charges a very low rate to a client, then there was this psychological kickback where the client often devalued the services. Sometimes, the client would even leave to go to an attorney who charged more just because they assumed the service was better because it cost more. This is not to dissuade pro-bono work, because I donate many hours a year via court appointments. Also, if the situation warranted, a discount at the back end did not have that same downside but could still help a struggling client.

The cardinal rule I am speaking of is to charge a reasonable rate compared to the market and expertise level so that I can make a living AND so participants value my services. Why am I breaking that rule with my mediation rates? Well, I really love mediating. I believe that mediation can make the difference between a future of constant contention or creative conflict resolution, especially for couples who will continue to co-parent. I believe it is a calling for me and not just a job (I would do it for free if I could AND if clients would still buy into the process). Finally, I want attorneys to come to trust me as a mediator; to value what I can bring to their family law cases.

So, I have created a sliding fee schedule based on a tiny percentage of the total household gross income. If you want to know what that formula is, feel free to call or email me, but everyone must pay some amount so that they have some “buy-in” to the process. On top of that, I have capped my hourly rate regardless of the income level. Finally, the minimum number of hours for which participants must pay is just one (1) hour as opposed to the two or three hour industry standard. I have two comfortable conference rooms in our offices and free parking, but I can travel within a reasonable distance to do the mediation at one of the attorney’s offices. I hope to offer this arrangement for the foreseeable future so that many people can experience the benefit of mediaiton for whom it would ordinarily be out of reach.

If you are in a conflict intense circumstance, I hope to hear from you soon.

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Predictable Litigation Results

The results from litigating always fall into one of two outcomes: either one party wins and the other loses or both parties lose. This is because litigation is an adversarial process where parties seek to beat one another. And, both parties may lose if neither gets the entire outcome they wanted.

There is always a loser in litigation.

The only possibility for an outcome where both parties win is when they mediate the issues. In mediation, there is no possibility of both parties losing, or of only one party winning. They either both win by reaching an agreement or they walk away to fight another day.

There is never a loser in mediation.

I have been in situation where one party simply refused to bend. Every possible option is met with obstacles. Sometimes this strategy pays off in terms of the outcome of court, but often it is devastating..

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Christmas Conflict

The words Christmas and conflict really do not belong together and yet, the holidays seem to offer lots of opportunities for conflict. Family members come together, expectations run high. Time runs low. Stresses increase. It is an odd thing that the celebration of the birth of the Prince of Peace is filled with stress.

Sometimes these family conflicts became entrenched somewhere along the way in such a manner that hurtful reactions are habituated. In times like that, an outside professional may be the only way to start a new, peace-filled and restful tradition of family fellowship. Mediation is not just for legal disputes; mediation can be used in any situation and any relationship where it appears an impasse has been reached (AND it is cheaper than therapy!).

If your holidays are marked with strife and there seems to be no way past it, offer the gift of mediation to those with whom the conflict arises.

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What cost peace?

Peace does have a price. The degree of peace we have experienced on our own soil as a country was paid for with the lives of soldiers in foreign battle fields. I do not mean to belittle the terrorist attacks that have occurred here, but in comparison to most other counries, we has seen relatively little carnage in our homeland.

Just like on the macro scale of war, peace on the micro scale of interpesonal relationshp bears a cost as well. From my vantage point as a lawyer who has served as counsel both to families and for businesses, many are unaware of cost of peace or, more importantly, the value of peace. I suggest that we paid the high cost of peace because the cost of war coming to us here at home was far greater.

One way of looking at mediation is that it is bringing the much higher future costs of conflict into the present so that people can pay the lower cost for peace. Another way of expressing this is when people (or organizations) recognize long-term consequences of unresolved conflict, then they become willing to give up positions and begin to reach resolutions.

A simple, yet effective technique in helping this recognition along is “playing it forward”. When a mediator finds a party entrenched on a particular position, they can take them aside and ask them what this conflict will look like a year, two years, and five years down the road. In other words, what price will their position cost. It is using imagination to fast forward the movie of their life to later, worst case scenes. If they are willing to pay the price they imagine, then one needs to go on to other issues.

Most likely, though, the person has been so target locked onto this one position, that they really have not considered the long-term cost. At this point, the mediator can move from the position to the underlying issue. That is where creative ideas can come in that cost far less than what they just saw in the alternate future.

A classic example of this in the family law realm is when parents litigate over timeshare of their young children. Each party is understandable driven by the prospect of losing out on precious moments. But, when the matter is played forward and they imagine life with teenagers, then the parents can begin to look for other ways to keep one another in the loop on milestone events.

This technique is simple enough that anyone can add it to their conflict resolution arsenal. The next time you find yourself locked into a battle with another person, take a breath and play the movie forward. What does that battlefield look like at the end?

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I recently published an article detailing some of the impending budget cuts for the Kentucky courts entitled “Mediaiton is the Future“. As the cost of litigating conflicts rise ever higher to society and litigants, mediation offers substantial cost savings in resolving those very same conflicts.

Mediation makes the resolution of disputes among individuals, within families, within businesses and organizations, between businesses, and with employees within financial reach. I am doing my part in the cost savings offered by mediating conflicts. It is important to me that even people with tight finances are able to access mediation.

Therefore, I offer a sliding fee schedule based on income to make this alternative dispute resolution available. The sliding fee schedule has been available to individuals who are not represented by attorneys. Now, additionally, I am offering reduced fees even when parties have attorneys so long as the attorneys each agree to a commensurate fee reduction to their own rates for the mediation session.

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The Kentucky court system experienced substantial funding cuts back in 2008. According to Chief Justice Minton, those cuts dramatically reduce the overall budget of the court system by 49% since that time. Despite this, Kentucky courts continued on with minimal staffing. In some counties, court dockets are so backed up that it takes several months for a trial to be set.

No wonder judges routine order parties into mediation!

The budget from the Kentucky House of Representatives proposes cutting an additional $36.3 million dollars next year and $40.6 million for the year after that. Those are huge cuts that will only impair the courts and make it take longer and longer to get lawsuits settled. In an email sent out on March 16th, Justice Minton asserted that, “Our ability to attract high-caliber, experienced judges to the bench is becoming compromised.”

Do you want to wait for months for your case to be tried by a less than high-caliber or inexperienced judge?

Mediation brings two or more parties together who have a dispute that they cannot resolve on their own and facilitates candid discussion of the issues and options. A neutral third-party, trained in conflict resolution, provides a forum for airing grievances in a confidential setting in order to move beyond entrenched positions to address the real issues. Once a skilled mediator has helped the parties get to that place, they provide the framework for the parties themselves to find novel answers, compromises, and mutually beneficial solutions.

Mediations is a here and now answer to the strain that the courts are under. And, the financial cut-backs show no sign of reversing. That means mediation is the future of conflict resolution as litigation becomes increasingly time consuming and expensive. A mediation can be scheduled within days or just a few weeks from the time parties agree to sit down together.

Sure, mediations do not always successfully resolve every issue. But, neither do trials. Consider this prior post entitled “Litigation Disillusionment”  revealing other shortfalls to litigation. However, progress has occurred in every mediation in which I have been involved and nearly all of those matters ended up resolving fully without being heard by a judge.




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