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Mediating Rather than Litigating

The process of mediating rather than litigating is simple. Instead of running out and hiring a lawyer right away, one or both spouses run out and find a mediator. The cost savings are instant because… Continue reading

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The Myth of “Uncontested Divorce”

There is an alternative to this litigator roulette. If both spouses are willing to engage in mediation prior to filing for divorce and perhaps even before retaining a lawyer, they are entering into the most likely scenario of a low-cost and relatively uncontested divorce. They may even emerge on the other side of mediation deciding that they actually are not at that irreconcilable place… Continue reading

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MEDIATION is not LITIGATION

Litigating is powering up to conquer…. Mediation is powering down to resolve conflict. Continue reading

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MEDIATION is not COUNSELING

… when a couple experience success in resolving one conflict with help, a side-effect often is the ability to resolve another one without help. Relationships heading towards destruction often are redirected onto a new course through a single intervention in the conflict. Continue reading

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MEDIATION is not ARBITRATION

… At the end of the day, though, the outcome belongs to the parties that had the dispute, not a third-party. That increases a sense of ownership and satisfaction in the outcome. There are either two winners at the end or, at worst, the conflict simply has not been resolved yet. Mediators are guides, not deciders. Continue reading

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Litigation Disillusionment

Any family law practitioner who has handled at least a handful of divorces has encountered the situation where the actions of the person they represent confounds them. What often stymies the lawyer is that their client seems determined to spend … Continue reading

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Justice Remains Elusive

A decade has past and, based on my experience with more litigants than I can count, justice remains elusive. That is why I am excited to take my law degree plus my courtroom and litigation experience and combine it with my prior career in the human services field to offer mediation services with an emphasis …. Continue reading

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