Category Archives: Divorce lawyer tactics

Holidays are rough for families in conflict

Yes, I practice family law. And yes, I handle divorce actions as part of that practice. And, I am most successful in that when I help my client reconcile. Sometimes this reconciliation means the divorce never happens and they re-invest in their marriage. Sometimes, though, reconciliation… Continue reading

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Dividing stuff up

In short, a domestic support obligation that arises from the distribution of property will be treated as a general unsecured debt in a Chapter 13. This creates a quandary for settling matters, especially in this market where houses (the major asset that is divided up in a divorce) take so long to sell. If there is a major asset, like a house, that has equity to be divided and one party wants to hold onto it or control its sale, one strategy is to realize that equity through debt. Continue reading

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Oh, no! The status quo

When one spouse decides to pursue a divorce, the non-filing spouse often feels an overwhelming sense of powerlessness. Their world turns upside down and the decision frequently surprises them. In these moments, desperation sets in and the non-filing spouse makes concessions to the filing spouse to try and win them back. The danger this creates is… Continue reading

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Affording a Dissolution of Marriage

I am afraid to say that using an attorney in a dissolution of marriage action is never going to be “cheap”. But there are some things to be aware of…. Continue reading

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Dissolution of Marriage: Where to file?

…An unwary and unrepresented party to a divorce, though, may unwittingly concede to an improper venue (a wrong county) by filing an answer or showing up to a court date. That is because…. Continue reading

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A Time of Renewal

….So, if you, a friend, or a family member is going through a family law crisis, please let them know my name. I would be glad to meet with them and see if I am the right attorney for them. Continue reading

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Divorce: Just the beginning

Many folks come to me regarding a divorce and perceive it as an ending. Some do not want it to happen and others believe this “end” will set them free from something painful. While it does bring a few things to a close, divorce is more appropriately viewed as a beginning. And, as a beginning, it is very important how it begins because the actions and attitudes adopted early in the process will largely determine how the process will go forward. Continue reading

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Lawyer Tactics in Divorce: The attorney fee correlation

When it is all said and done and the money that would have paid for your children’s college has been spent – what it left? Nothing was really resolved and there are a whole set of fresh injuries to nurse. So, if you want an expensive divorce – get an aggressive attorney. If, however, you want to get on with your life and experience some semblance of peace – find a lawyer that believes in resolving conflict rather than profiting from it. Continue reading

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If you want an expensive divorce – get an aggressive lawyer

So, why do these lawyers resort to such psychological assualts? Well, the most cynical answer is that it pays! People in divorces are likely at the angriest point in their lives and all that anger is focused on the one person they are convinced has ruined their life. And yet, they are now separated from the object of their wrath and under the scrutiny of the court so that they cannot cut loose on the other party as they would like to. Instead, they get the vicarious release of seeing their lawyer say hurtful, nasty things – AND IN PUBLIC TOO! When it is all said and done and the money that would have paid for your children’s college has been spent – what it left? Bitterness. That’s all, just bitterness. Continue reading

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